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Post by RS Davis on Aug 30, 2004 21:55:10 GMT -5
I only wish. It's still very painful for her. Everything that we do in life has an effect on our kids. I'm healing....slowly. Maybe someday I'll even be able to have a normal healthy loving relationship again. If not, then I'll have a healthy sexual relationship with someone. I'll get over it. Point is, it will take a lot more than getting laid to repair the hurt and betrayal that she feels. She may have been an adult when things finally came apart, but the pain she feels is the pain of a child who was betrayed by someone who was suppose to take care of her. By someone who told her she loved her as a daughter and then turned her back on her. Of course, she turned her back on everyone that loved her and that is her loss, but we all have to deal with it in our own way. It's not just Em, she has been horrible to her 11 yr old neice too. If you don't fit into her little mold of how you should be, then apparently you're out. How could I have spent so many yrs with someone who was so very vacant inside and never have noticed? Isn't that the way it is? From talking before, I think our exes are very similar women. You were with yours 8 years longer than I was, so the healing will take longer, I think. But look at me as what lies ahead. We're resiliant animals, we humans. - Rick |
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Post by maylily on Aug 30, 2004 22:44:45 GMT -5
People have to put others into little boxes so they feel comfortable. And most people feel comfortable in their little boxes, they're safe there, nothing to fear.
That's the way a lot of people look at religion - it's a nice safe little box. You read the words and do what they say and everything is hunky-dory and you're going to Heaven. Unfortunately, I don't think that's the way it works. I can't remember the verse but there is something in the Bible about reading the Bible in a worldly way and reading it in a spiritual way. Those in their nice, safe little boxes are reading the words with their minds and it isn't touching their hearts. Jesus wasn't about making people comfortable. He was all about making people uncomfortable...and people becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable. Have a party? Don't invite all your good buddies who are just like you - go out on the street and invite the disabled, the poor, the outcasts. That's who we all are, after all, the outcasts. Reading the Bible with a spiritual eye is letting the meaning into your heart. That's where you'll hear the Bible telling you that homosexuals shouldn't be shunned and treated like second class citizens. That's how you'll learn that being pro-life means caring for the baby after birth, too...not just before. That's when you know that if your neighbor is hungry and you don't feed him, that is your sin - if the person you pass on the street is in pain and you do nothing, that is your sin - if someone dies alone and afraid, that is your sin. But people have to come out of their little religious holier-than-thou boxes to learn those lessons...and that's not comfortable. Fuck being comfortable. We're all too comfortable. It's time for the religious right to rise up and be uncomfortable and truly live what they claim they believe.
*looking around...ducking head and slowly pushing soapbox back in the corner*
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Post by RS Davis on Sept 1, 2004 8:01:59 GMT -5
Well said, Maylily! If it weren't already in the Great Poster Quotes, I'd put it there!
- Rick
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